Ethics in Search

Do nothing to harm the one you are searching for.

When a birth mom receives a private letter from you or is approached by a third party asking her to consider reunion with you, it gives her time to think it all through. She can take some time to work through her shame and be ready then to accept you into her life.

The point is that by being respectful of your birth mom it can also help to gain the reunion you really are looking for.