Please note that the following information may be true in one state and not another. I suggest joining a state specific mail list in order to learn more about the practices in the state of your search.
The following is true only in rare cases and should not be considered the case just because you do not find someone in a few months.
Most states did not allow this deceptive practive. In some cases clerical errors were made throwing a DOB off by a few days, rarely more than a month. Remember that no adoptive parent was ever in cahoots with an adoption agency to conceal a true DOB. A baby who is said to be three months old and is really only one month old would be cause for great concern in terms of size and development. An adoptive parent would be questioning the child's slow development. In infant adoptions, it is extremely rare for the date to be off by more than one month.
There are other ways of searching, doing all your own detective work, and searching every public record you can. When doing this look beyond the dates you think relate to you, to see if there may be something for you on another date.
I again emphasize this only relates to searches that have gone nowhere. In the beginning of a search one should stick with the non-id information they have as being correct.
Again, remember that statistics are often wrong.! There are always the cases that do not fall into the realm of the statistics.
Next consider any inheritable medical problems. These may include vision, teeth formation (need for braces), hearing, heart, spinal, mental disease, and more. Do consider blood types.
Consider the circumstances surrounding the adoption. Are there similarities. If any circumstances are contrary, but are the kind that agencies, courts, lawyers, etc., could change, then ignore them.
If you are very certain the person you are looking for is in a particular city and yet you find no record of them in that city, it is time to think the unthinkable. Check out the homeless shelters by getting the names of directors for programs that exist in that city. Also check out drug rehabilitation programs.
When people land in these situations there are usually no records on them. They rarely have a car so they won't have a driver's license. You won't find them on voter's registration lists. If they don't have an address they are virtually impossible to find, except through the programs run by the cities they are in.
If you are looking for a birthmom who may be over age 50 now, then also look at nursing homes. People who are in nursing homes do not show up on a database search. They are not listed in phone directories. You can check out nursing homes in the area you believe your birthmom is in.
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